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So we’ve been best friends for 2 years and we dated for 8 months and in that time we shared our first kiss and said we loved each other. When he dumped me, he was crying a little and just said he didnt want a girlfriend anymore.
I’m especially sad because he now acts like i don’t exist, he doesn’t even care about how i must feel.
I’m only 15 and he’s my first boyfriend so you can see how much this especially hurts me:(
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He’s totally not even close to being REMOTELY good enough for you.
the best way to deal with heart break, is to find something (or someone) else to love to fill that hole in your heart. stressing over it won’t help, but make it worse.
spend some more time with your Friends, have a pet? no? then ask your parents to get you one.
or better yet, when you think your ready, try the dating pool again.
there are more fish in the sea right?
hope you feel better and get back on your feet soon!!!
it always hurts , esp if he was your first boyfriend. only time will heal this and how he behaves towards you well, usually is up to him but it always it kind of hard to understand. take some time out for yourself and cry about it if you have to but dont do it for a long time, you are still young, get to meet more people and do some things somehow different from how you used to, sort of "distract" yourself, listen to some fast songs, get a hobby, just do things that will sort of help you forget him and just stay occupied, with time, you might learn to let it go, but gettting over it is up to you, you have to let youserl get over it and move on. good luck
It is so horribly hard when this happens. And if you really love him, that love will never go away. Love isn’t a switch we can turn on or off. It stays, but the key is learning that you can love again. Right now your hurting, but time heals that kind of hurt. Your pretty young right now sweetie, and when your older you’ll fall in love again. Just keep the good memories with you and learn from your experience. Life is a journey of learning and feelings and disappointments and happiness. You’ll move on, just give your heart a little time to heal.
well, i say have some girl time with your girlfriends. that’s always a way to get into a good mood.
and if that doesn’t help either, take bubble baths.
just soak in bubbles, sit there cry it out if you have to. and if you don’t like bubbles, there’s other baths that you could by at the body shop. hopefully you have that in your malls.
you could also take your anger out, maybe join kick boxing, or workout, or try yoga.
but one thing, don’t forget this. show him that you are strong. don’t walk around in sweats and look down all the time. dress like you normally do, do your hair like always. Take showers and look damn clean.
yea maybe you might not be ready for another guy, or maybe you might. so when one hits and your ready to go out, take that chance, just have fun for the day.
HI
I understand how you feel me in my girlfriend just broke up last week,in im gonna get over it.Heres some things that might help you out.1, You could try tokeep your self busy,you know like hang out with some fiends,get out the house sometimes.number2ushould find someone new that you realy like talk them conversate,see where that leaves you,Try finding someone new..Of course getting over some one you love is gonna take time but you will get over it trust me.In dont just spend all your time wondering why?, and what happen dont mope around all day fellin sad,Just have fun look at all the good things you have and remember (YOU WILL GET OVER IT) Well i hoped that i could help you bye! Have a great day>>>>
hey, im going through the same thing, only its been 10 months and best friends for 5 years. we shared our first kiss, and said we loved each other. doesn’t talk to me really and its hurting me to. what i did was i told a bunch of my very close friends to come over and they all comforted me. i feel a little better but if doesn’t help, wait a few months then start looking for some1 else. wouldn’t suggest you get into a serious relation ship till you have fully healed. also keep any pictures of him out of sight till you healed fully. im really sorry about whats going on to. i hope this helps! it helped me a lot. good luck!!!
i wish i could tell you… i’m going through a really difficult situation with my bf of a year and eight months right now too (we barely have any time to spend together… when he does have time he spends it with his guy friends) and because we used to spend all of our time together, i don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. he was my first everything too (i’m eighteen and he will be too in less than a month so i understand exactly how much it hurts). the only thing i can tell you is to hold your head up high because i’m sure you’re a beautiful person (and you never know… things might work out between you two again soon). if you ever need to talk to someone please don’t hesitate to email me. i would be more than happy to talk with you about anything you need to get out (and i really need to get my mind off my situation for a while too).
hey, thats the same situation im in right now. my gf and i were best friends for 2 yrs and in a relationship for a year.i was crazy for her.i loved her. she said she loves me too.but now im startin to loose interest and i feel i dont want a girlfriend.having a gf means i cant even talk and joke around with other girls(dat wud mean "flirtin"). and im only 17 i dont want to loose my freedom at this age.and next thing i realized was maybe i was crazy over her just for the excitment of the chase, know what i mean?
hey, can i have ur yahoo id so we can talk mo bout it?i may kno why he left u. n sorry for talkin bout myself when ur at a critical condition.
hope u fine.
I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend of a year just brokeup with me four days ago. He cried a little bit, and also told me he didn’t want a girlfriend anymore. He never talks to me anymore, and when I try to tell him how I feel, he doesn’t care or listen. I’m 15 tooo, and he’s my first REAL relationship, I’ve been talking to other guys and my best friends.
Time’s gonna heal it for both of us.
Just meet new guys! And talk to your bestfriends, they should be there for you the whole time, hangout with them as much as possible.
Wish you luckk
u dont need anyone to help u with that, u’ll find the answer in ur heart that there are not good guys in the world, they r all the same with girlfreinds. crying over someone who doesnt care or acts like it is waist of time, have fun with ur family and friends they r worth it,,,
enjoy ur time (*_’)
get a new boyfriend….
well im sorry about that,
but your young, just give it time you’ll get over him and
move on to another guy.
the bottom line is he doesn’t want to be with you for some reason, and that is reason enough to move on. i know how much this hurts, but the hurt disappears as soon as you realize you don’t want to be with him. why would you want to be with someone who would cast you aside like that? once you realize he is not the one for you, you will be grateful that he set you free to find someone else and didn’t waste your time. he did the right thing, and is giving you both the space you need to heal and reform your boundaries and autonomy. just feel your heartbreak and focus on what your current situation is, you are single again, and you don’t want him anymore. you have to replace your attachment with a new desire to move on and find happiness without him. don’t stay stuck, you’ll just keep suffering.
there’s plenty of fish in the sea.
I learned this the long hard way.
20 lovers 20 heartbreaks,
thats how life goes, but you shouldnt turn your back on love.
… but your only 15 anyways!!!
dont worry too much about it.
and dont get with someone else to make him jealous, thats real kiddy shiiiit.
just handle it your own way, time will pass, and the hurt will fade. but it IS gonna take some time.
Even older in your 30s it still hurts like hell. It is just one of those time and experience things. The best thing to do is go out and have a good time.
Happy people attract other people. The one thing I can tell you is keep your future conversations brief and happy.
AWWW im so sorry! you will get over the pain. take one day at a time! life goes on! take some time to focus on you. do things that you liek doing alone, with your female friends. Just enjoy life! you have alot of life to life and i know the heart is heavy right now but it will get lighter in time and you will love the fact that you have and this living experience. so smile cuz in time everything will be alright
It is okay, everyone has been through break ups. You will make it through. Just stop thinking about him.:)
there are better ones dont worry you are still young. if its meant to be it will happen and he will come back
im sorry to hear about that. just go out there and get someone else!
I understand completely hun. But only time will heal your pain. Eventually you’ll get the strength to date another guy and he will help you forget all about your ex. I know you are in a lot of pain right now but this pain wont just go away over night. Not to mention you’ll have plenty more. But the pain is always well worth the fight! I promise! Try to be around friends, sometimes they have more knowledge and can help you deal with the pain. This way you don’t sulk around all the time. This is the moving on process! I hope this helps! Good Luck!
be strong you can do this …. there r better guys out there for you
talk about it to a real friend or just get another man
It cuz hes gay
okay, try taking your mind off of him. focus on more important things like school work, or you could find a new guy and soon you will forget about him.
go out with another HOTTER guy it will make him so jealous and he will regret ever dumping you
Only time can make it better! Keep yourself busy…… i’ve had plenty of relationships and at the time it feels like you’ll never get over them but trust me you do and you find better !!!!
Jon’s advice is disgusting
but my advice isn’t better
Just hang out with your friends, you probably just feel lonely right now. Have more time with your friends and forget about people who don’t love you
That guy is not worth you moping over him. There are better guys out there. And give him the same treatment too; don’t let him feel macho and all that because he can see that you’re sad and he’s having fun getting to know new girls. Go talk to some other guys who are more worthy of you and see how he likes it.
1.The first thing that you should already know is that it is ok to cry.
2.Examine what had happened, and ask yourself why. Don’t think that it’s your fault. You have to make a point to yourself that this situation is not entirely your fault – or maybe it’s not your fault at all. Thinking about the reasons why it ended can make it much clearer to you that it takes two people to start a relationship, but just one discordant person is enough to end it. It may also help you avoid many missteps in the future if you can identify areas where you contributed to the demise of the relationship.
3.Don’t rethink your decision. If the breakup was your decision, keep in mind that only thinking about all the good times you had with your mate may cause you to forget the reasons why you broke it off. By the same token, try not to second guess the situation if the decision to end things was not yours. It’s very common to romanticize the good parts of the relationship, convincing yourself that maybe the bad parts weren’t so bad after all, that maybe you could just live with them. Or that maybe if your ex would know just how you feel, he/she wouldn’t want to break up after all. Don’t play this game with only yourself. Accept the situation and work on moving forward only.
4.Keep your space. Even if you and your ex have decided to stay friends, break away completely from each other right after the breakup. This seriously means not seeing each other, not being around his/her family members, no phone calls, no e-mails, no IMs and most importantly no Brady talk – not necessarily as a permanent measure, but until you feel that you can converse with him/her on a purely platonic level, without an ulterior motive (and yes, wanting to get back together counts as an ulterior motive). If he/she tries to convince you to see him/her, ask yourself honestly what the point would be. If you’re reliving the past by seeing him/her, it’s not hard to get caught up in the moment and it will be harder to let go again. The longer you put off the end, the harder it is to stick to it and maintain your resolve, and the longer it will take to really get over it. Your pain will hold on as long as you do. Practice letting go. Let go. Let go. And now… let go. You may have to have some contact in order to deal with the practical aspects of things like moving out, signing papers, etc., but try to limit this to what’s absolutely necessary, and then keep such calls/meetings short and civil.
5.Accept your pain. Have good long cries. It’s okay to be hurt and sad, and it’s okay to be alone. It’s okay to feel like you have messed up – accepting responsibility for your mistakes or shortcomings is healthy. On the other hand, you must also accept that you are a good person, and that you did your best and you’re not the only one who made mistakes. Of course, a stage of denial is completely natural, but acceptance is the key to being able to begin to move on.
6.Think through everything thoroughly, but not obsessively. Go ahead and mull it over, as many times as necessary, within reason. Consider all the reasons you two broke up. Even if it sometimes seems as if there wasn’t a good reason, there certainly was one – and probably more than one. Understand that you enjoyed being together for a while, but if the relationship was not what both you and your partner wanted for life, it would have ended eventually, no matter what. In this case, better sooner than later.
7.Deal with the ‘hate phase’. This is where you want to just scream because your rage feels boundless. The amount of anger you feel depends on how antagonistic the split was, the circumstances (was there infidelity? That makes it worse), and how long it took to make the final break. You may resent your ex for wasting your time. You may realize that the breakup was inevitable (hindsight will reveal clues you failed to notice at the time). You may even feel a lot of anger towards yourself, but let go of that feeling fast! It’s a waste of time and energy to rip yourself apart over something you no longer have the power to change. There are so many positive things you can do with your emotions and energy.
8.Talk to your friends. You want people around you who love you and who will help you feel better about yourself again too. Surrounding yourself with compassionate, supportive friends and family will help you see yourself as a worthwhile, worthy person, and you’ll find it easier to get steady on your feet again with your loved ones around you in a comforting net. Be wary of friends trying to connect you with another person, this is not what you need right now.
9.Make a list to keep you honest. One of the best tricks to help you stick to your resolve is to make a list of all the reasons your ex was not the one for you. Be ruthless and clear — this is not the time to be forgiving. What you’re doing is creating a picture for yourself that will call up an emotional response when you feel tempted to think that