Comments on: I earn more money than my husband and I feel resentful towards him. How do I save my marriage?

By: Josh's Muffin

Josh's Muffin — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

That’s sad that your value of him is based on how much money he does or doesn’t make. You both need to go to counseling.

By: Ivy

Ivy — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

Your marriage should be based on your love for each other, not the dollar amount you make. If you married for money, I feel sorry for the unhappy life that you will have because you are greedy and selfish.

By: Michelle D

Michelle D — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

Can you live with him just doing most of the housework? It does not sound like you can. If you don’t speak to him now about this, I can see you resenting him more & more until you finally kick him out. If you want the marriage to succeed, you need to speak to him – perhaps even seek the help of a marriage counselor. Good luck to you.

By: Glenda B.

Glenda B. — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

Congratulations – you’re a sexist. I would KILL to have somebody to do my housework.

Is he a good cook?

By: Dixxie

Dixxie — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

I can understand how you would feel. It’s a turn off when a women makes more money than her husband even if marriage is not suppose to be about money. Somewhere along the line it is though. It’s really up to you on the importance of it all, not us. Everyone has their own personal preferences. I don’t think you should feel guilty.

By: bayou_babe1111

bayou_babe1111 — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

my new hubby is basically the same way. He does do all the housework, yardwork & cooking, so I cant complain much. If your happy in the rest of your marriage, thats a small price to pay!

By: dpaulholding

dpaulholding — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

That is normal. The rose colored glasses always come off a few months after marriage.

By: Lleh

Lleh — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

You can’t change him, you can only change how you feel. One thing you can do is be grateful you live in a time when women no longer have to be financially dependent on the man they marry. In the past a lot of nice decent men have gotten passed over because they didn’t earn the big bucks and even women who could afford to live comfortably on their own earnings felt obligated to marry a man who earned more. Consider yourself fortunate that you could marry for love, companionship, sex or having someone to do the housework. Men have always had the luxury of marrying for those reasons and now women can too.

By: DIY Chic

DIY Chic — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

Be happy he does the house work. That right there shows you that he is putting in a great effort to make up for what he lacks in income. Don’t focus so much on who’s the bread winner of the household – focus on why you got married and why you love each other. If he loves you for who you are, you should love him for who he is.

By: slip

slip — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 19:11:10 +0000

Welcome to a husbands world. See how fun it is???? BTW, does he whine about life on a daily basis. If so you have officially joined the ranks of the husbands club!