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I cant stop thinking of my ex. I’m devastated, i truly love him and can’t control my feelings. I eat and puke every time, i lost 3 kg in just 1 week.
How can i stop my mind pondering and thinking of him?
p.s. I’m 22 and this is a second heart break ,i can’t take it anymore and i think that i will never find someone else ever.
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Hey hun, I share same situation with you.
I can’t stop thinking abt him too for the past 6 weeks?
I did not puke but i think i lost 3 kg also.
I keep myself busy and tired BUT he’s still there.
Whenever i talk to him online as we are now friends, i feel more hurt!
I do hope in no time we can get out of it.
You can email me if you need anyone to talk to.
To me, if your not meant to be, its not meant to be. I don’t know the reason for your break up so i can’t really say anything… like was it something he did or was it mutual?
Your 22, exactly! Your still young and you will find someone. You truly loved him, but its only your 2nd boyfriend..
Talk to one of your friends or family members who knows you better. Distract yourself with movies (comedy!) or go for a sad movie and just cry it all out. (and eat ice cream!)
Give it another week. Spend time with your friends, or make new ones. Just forget about him. It wasn’t meant to be.
Move on and let your heart heal over time or let him know how you feel and maybe the two of you will be together again.
you need to try and find someone else to get him out ya mind, maybe just use someone for abit, as a sex buddy maybe or hang with your mates every day, that works!
I know how you feel. all of us have been through that at some point in our life. break-ups are always hard, but time heals everything. give it about a month or so and you will get over it and you will see for yourself! try and go out with your friends, maybe go out to and meet other guys, also i suggest you stop talking or meeting your ex right away if you guys are still friends, because you will never be able to get over him if you keep seeing him.
well that sucks cause if i woulda found you i wouldnt of hurt you but you have to stop pukeing you will be ok
It will take TIME time time time TIME time time.
You cant fix it but instead move on and not dwell on it… Focus hard on something you want to acheive. Work goals and other kinds of goals and give all your energy to that.
But mostly just give it time.
Sounds like you’re co-dependent (like me). You need to see a therapist and you need to know that you are a valuable person regardless of the other people in your life… Get help now babe.
The pain can be incredible but it happens to everyone. You have to find ways to get your mind off of it. Stay really busy. Clean your house, go out with friends, work really hard, exercise. Your mind can’t think of two things at one time so if you can stay busy, you won’t think of him as much. And your heart will have time to mend. One day you will wake up and not think about him. It will be kind of a surprise. That it doesn’t hurt much anymore. Then you are ready to find someone else.
while i feel bad for you, i think it’s shallow to assume you’ll never find someone else. No advice on here can guarantee a realistic betterment but think about this "were you born with this guy"? Is it worth risking your health over?
Live right, act right. Your real man will come by someday.
I’m sorry u feel this way.
hey..it realy sees like you love him alot………….but u have to get past him..nd it wil prolly take a LONG time..nd u might not ever get over him…but..ur only 22 u sill have a long time to find the love of your life..it will just take time.! but maybe to get over him..u could go on a nice vacation or something…go shopping..do something 4 ur self!
Time, heartbreak is tough and so is life. Nothing is permanent. I know easier said than done, but time will heal all wounds
Ariani you cant do this to yourself! I know break ups are impossibly hard (been there too unfortunately) some days you dont even care if you end up dead, I did but dunno if I was just being a bit extreme. Hes the only thing you think of every minute of every day and you wish so much you could change things. The only thing that mends a broken heart is time. Thats probably the answer you didnt wanna hear but its true. And your friends. I know the last thing you feel like doing is getting all made up and going out partying but seriously it helps so much just to make a big effort and wear something sexy and go out with your girlfriends and try to have fun. The best way to help stop you from thinking about him is to go out and do things. Sitting at home is the worst thing you can do because you end up just sat staring into space daydreaming about him and reminiscing about "the good times". I know its hard but it does get easier I promise. In a year youll wonder why you wasted so much time crying over him. And you will meet someone else! Good Luck x
I can understand how you feel….but time is a good healer,it will definitely heal your wounds.I’d suggest that you go out to some place that you like,do something you like or may be join a hobby class?(If,he’s broken your heart then do not cry for him,never shed tears for someone who doesn’t care about you and those who do will never let them flow)
hey ariana,
there is never a perfect guy or destiny
look around. Which kind of relationships take long when you are around 20s? Most of them lasted only quite a few months or perhaps 2 or 3 years. One in three marriage ends in divorce.
Around me is only like 1 year, 6 months.
So, just find a new hobby. Hang out with your friends. It won’t take long. I promise.
This relationship kind of thing have never been known for sure
In this century, i feel most of the relationships are meant to be broken up.
So, don’t worry. Just relax. Go to parties, go shopping or gym and try to concentrate in working one thing. you will forget him and be able to move on for sure.
I am sooooo sorry for you!!! But, speaking purely from experience…you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself!! You sound like a wonderful caring person, and if he couldn’t see that, then it is his lose and not yours!!!! This may sound lame, but the only way to quit thinking about him is to do just that. Find other things, anything else to think about.
You need to get a hold of your emotions though, because getting sick every time you eat is truly not good for you!!! When my exhusband and I split up after 13 yrs together I was in much the same boat as you are right now. And the only thing that truly worked for me was asking God to take him out of my mind, because I couldn’t deal with having to think about him. I swear for the first few days, I must have asked God that 500 times a day, everytime he popped into my head I asked. It worked though!!!!!
As far as the hurt goes, it will get better, but I think that truly devasting heartbreak you always feel to a certain extent. Just not always as bad as it does now!!!
I wish you the best!!! Surround yourself with friends who are sympathetic, but that will NOT dwell on the subject of him or your breakup…and WILL NOT let you do it either!!!!
It happend with me many times, and I believed that I was goig to die… but I found someone, who I love too much and I married – we are together, it has eleven years.
I followed this prescriptions:
1) I didn´t started having sex until I was sure that I was going to live my wole life with this person.
2) I travelled to Salvador – Bahia (Ì´m Brazilian), and took contact with many people of my age, and from many places… I saw that that girl was not the only one In the word.
3) In the next contacts, I didn´t passed ahead the kisses or touching some parts of the body… I took a lot of care, because I was certain that I shoudn´t have sex – I wanted someone to make love.
4) See if you have affinity with this person, If you have a kind of telepathy. This things really happen.
5) Every time you think (happy or unhappy) in your ex, you shoud make a prayer, petition, invocation to your heart, were it is a God called Holy Mother (many signification, deppending of the culture: Stella Maris, Tonantzin, Isis, etc):
"Holy Mother, take off this sentiment of me!"
Do it how times, how this think appears in your mind, many and many times, to that desapear.
YOU ARE GOING TO BE HAPPY! YOU ARE GOING TO FIND ANOTHER BOY! GOD BLESS YOU!
First off let me start by saying that I feel your pain. I was in a relationship with a guy for 7 years. We were or so I thought each others best friend and lover. He supported me when I wanted to go back to college and finish out my degree but about a 3 mths before I was to finish I found out that he had been taking a woman 15 years younger than him to lunch every day while I was working and attending school. I thought that it was my fault for not paying enough attention to him and I blamed myself in so many ways. I felt old, ugly, used, and betrayed on so many levels. I lost 20lbs in about 4 weeks just sitting around not eating , drinking only coffee and smoking cigaretts, and sleeping a lot. Every thought from A to Z crossed my mind.I ended up having to repeat my last quarter in college because of it.I think that we all grieve in different ways and when someone close to you betrays you that you are longer in finding some sort of closure. But I know that one day closure will come. It will be a long hard road but you will get there one day. I will give you the same advice that my 20 year old nephew gave me, One day God will send you someone who will love and respect you the way that you deserve to be loved and respected. It may not be next week, or next month but when you least expect it he will send them. As for your ex God has a way of making sure that the people who hurt you the most have people placed in their lives who hurt them the same way that they hurt you, hense the saying " do unto others as you would have done to you". Be strong girl and take sancturary in the love of family and friends. Feel free to contact me more if you need to.